DEAR Dr PAM
0 Comments | People (London, England), The, March 28, 2004
Byline: Dr PAM SPURR
He likes me in a uniform
Dear Dr Pam
I HAVE been with my boyfriend for two years and we have an active sex life. I am open to suggestions so when he asked me to dress as a sexy nurse I was happy to give it a go.
The thing is he now wants me to dress up every time we have sex – he’s suggested a naughty schoolgirl’s outfit, a teacher, a policewoman and a French maid. But it would cost me a fortune to buy all these outfits.
Although I enjoyed the first time, I feel it’s too much to ask for me to keep forking out like this. What should I do?
Jane
ASK him to PROVIDE you with costumes of his choice – if he’s that keen he’ll pay! You could also get him some costumes, for example, if you have a “rude builder” fantasy, a tool belt could be your only prop!
You can find things around the home for most fantasises if neither of you wants to spend much. For more tips, listen to my helpline Your Sexual Fantasies on 0901 565 5511*.
Dear Dr Pam
I HAVE been married for 10 years and my husband is the only man I have ever slept with. But I don’t have an orgasm every time and am worried it’s something I’m doing wrong. My husband says this is normal for a woman – however, my friends say you should expect one every time you have sex. Who’s right?
Paula
IT’S rare for a woman to have an orgasm every time – only 15 per cent say they do. But sex is more than just orgasms. It’s about affection, love, being close – things your friends forget. Don’t let them rain on your parade – if you’re happy, the intimate details are none of their business.
Dear Dr Pam
I AM in love with a man I met through the internet and we’ve been out three times. He had separated from his wife three months before but then he emailed to say she wanted to give it another go and that it was best if we cool it.
Then weeks later he called to say he wanted to see me again. He’s still with his wife but says he can’t live without me. We haven’t slept together but I can’t help think that this would clinch it for me.
Jennifer
DO you want to break up his marriage? HE’S a fool to give it a go with her and also try to slip you back into his life. YOU’RE a fool to fall for it. If sex ropes him in, it won’t last – the next woman will find that just as easy as you and he could cheat on you too! Find an unattached man to try your sexual ploys on.
Dear Dr Pam
I FOUND a ring in my boyfriend’s drawer and I’m scared he’s going to propose. We’ve been together for five years and even though I love him very much, I don’t feel ready.
I’m only 21 and it feels too young. I know he’d be heartbroken if I turned him down as he has often spoken about us being together for ever.
Melissa
YOU might be jumping the gun! But if you’re right and it’s an engagement ring, be honest and tell him, as you did me, that you love him but aren’t ready for marriage.
There’s no rush and being young he should accept what you say. You could also head him off by bringing up the subject yourself – saying it would be nice one day. There’s no law against women doing that.
‘TRAPPED’ BY OLDER BLONDE AT WORK
Dear Dr Pam
I AM 20 and have recently begun having sex with a 36-year-old blonde woman at work. Last month we had a marathon session in her flat. However, she has now told me she’s pregnant. What should I do? I don’t want to be trapped because, to me, it’s just a sexual relationship.
Alan
THAT’S the problem – when a man’s penis is in gear his brain goes into neutral. Don’t whinge to me if all you could think about was having it off with her.
If the baby’s yours and she keeps it you’ll be liable for child support but you should also consider being part of the child’s life. In future, wear a condom!
Battle of the sexes
CHAPS – watch those personal ads for these: If she says “voluptuous” she means “very big”. And if she claims that she’s “beautiful”, she’s a pathological liar!
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I’VE CLICKED WITH MY FELLA’S HUNKY BROTHER
Dear Dr Pam
I HAVE been going out with my boyfriend for two months and last weekend we went to a party where I met all of his family. I really felt that my boyfriend was the one for me – until I met his brother. I spent all night chatting to him and have never laughed so much. We just clicked. I have seen him several times since and each time find him more attractive.
Andrea
BEFOREyou risk doing something you regret cool things with your boyfriend. However, just because you felt there was a a connection with his brother, HE may not have thought so.
If you continue to feel more attracted to the brother, finish with your boyfriend. Then leave it some time before approaching his brother, who may still reject you. You can’t have it both ways!
PICTURE CASEBOOK: SAM’S ‘SEXY’ STRIPTEASE REDUCES HER BOYFRIEND TO HELPLESS LAUGHTER
1
SAM STARTS A STRIP ROUTINE
I KNOW HOW TO TURN YOU ON…
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BUT IT’S A JOKE FOR BEN
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…AND SOON HE’S IN HYSTERICS
SHUT UP.
french maid costume